Couples Therapy vs. Breaking Up

Couples Therapy vs. Breaking Up

When your relationship is struggling, you might often ask yourself do we go to couples therapy or do we break up? This is a challenging decision to make, but only you and your partner can make this decision, and it is not always an easy one. 

The decision to break up or go to couples therapy is based on the specific couple and your willingness to work on your relationship as well as the severity of the issues you might be facing.  For some couples, therapy can often resolve your problems and strengthen your bond and help you feel more connected than ever.  While other couples it might be healthier to go your separate ways for both of your well-being in the long term.  

When considering attending couples therapy or making the decision to break up, one must ask themselves what the purpose of each decision might be.  The purpose of couples therapy is to help improve your relationship, resolve conflicts and enhance communication.  This can be very beneficial for couples facing a variety of challenges such as intimacy, communication, trust, or even a difference in values and goals. Now the purpose of a break up is different.  The purpose of breaking up involves ending your romantic relationship and going your separate ways.  This route may be chosen when the issues in your relationship are too severe, you might not be compatible and when one or both partners no longer want to be in the relationship. 

Both of these options also have benefits and other things you must factor in.  Couples therapy is a time commitment with a financial component; however it offers the benefit of working on your communication, conflict resolution, understanding one another and helping to reconnect you with your partner.  A break up offers something different.  A break up gives you the benefit of reducing stress by allowing you to move on with your life and focus on yourself and your personal goals.  

Ultimately no one can make the decision on what is best for your relationship besides you and your partner.  So you must consider the purpose and benefits of both options and find the one that is best for you and your partner.

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